How many partners? Am I bad?

[totallycommitted]

^^^ 30 sounds like a lot of people. I understand being in college but you have to use wisdom and have self-respect as well. College is a time to have fun and wild out but it is not necessarily time to treat your body like a trash can for anyone willing to let you put your garbage in or needing to deposit garbage into.
As for the guy having too few partners, I think it is sad that people feel that way, but yet when a guy is jumping from woman to woman he is viewed as a "dog." So a woman can decide that she doesn't want to put herself at risk for STIs, emotional problems and babies from 10 different people but a man can't do the same? I would respect a man who didn't have a list in the triple digits or better yet one in which he could not even remember all the names and faces. To me that is totally disgusting.
So the question is what do you do now? You felt like there must have been something wrong with him for only having been with 7 people, but then you can't handle the fact he looked at you crazy when you said 30+. Prehaps you should both try to leave the past where it is... it can't be changed now and just move on from today. If that is possible, then just let it go. It may seem like something minor but it may not be. Good luck

[Scandia]

Valkyrie- I would not be creeped out in the least bit. On the contrary, I would be proud of him. Sure sure, there could be a not so healthy explanation. But I am willing to give a person the benefit of the doubt. And if there were a majorly problematic reason, it would have manifested itself in other ways.

HFLaura- Yay! That is a great attitude to have.

Totallycommitted- I hate double standards very much. All of them- not just this one. And as you said, they hurt men as much as they hurt women. I know someone who did sleep around during a problem period- and the person deeply regrets it and it majorly hurt psychologically even though there were no concrete consequences (no STDs or unwanted pregnancies).

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Valkyrie- I would not be creeped out in the least bit. On the contrary, I would be proud of him. Sure sure, there could be a not so healthy explanation. But I am willing to give a person the benefit of the doubt. And if there were a majorly problematic reason, it would have manifested itself in other ways.

Well, that's the thing -- it's different for everybody. I wouldn't want a guy who is any of the following:

-inexperienced
-unattractive/otherwise unappealing
-religious

By the time a guy is in his mid-20s or so, I think those are the most likely reasons for a guy having a very, very low number. Someone else might like, for example, a Christian guy who wants to save himself for the right person -- I, however, would run for the hills.

ETA: And LOL @ Delt Alum.

[Scandia]

Well, I do want a fine Christian gentleman who has saved himself for the right person That's for sure. In my book: the less experienced, the better.

I do not know for sure what you mean by attractive. But let's just say I do care about looks. I do not want or need a GQ model- just someone who is at least decent looking and takes good care of himself.

I'm not a religious fanatic either. I do have a healthy attitude towards human sexuality and believe that it is for the union of two persons who love each other, not just for reproduction. But I do have Christian morals.

Told you I was a square peg in a round hole!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by Scandia

Well, I do want a fine Christian gentleman who has saved himself for the right person That's for sure. In my book: the less experienced, the better.

I do not know for sure what you mean by attractive. But let's just say I do care about looks. I do not want or need a GQ model- just someone who is at least decent looking and takes good care of himself.

I'm not a religious fanatic either. I do have a healthy attitude towards human sexuality and believe that it is for the union of two persons who love each other, not just for reproduction. But I do have Christian morals.

Told you I was a square peg in a round hole!

It's nice how you are saying you have "christian morals" while slamming the beliefs of Roman Catholics (who, hi, are Christian!) by erroneously stating them and belittling them at the same time.

[Scandia]

"is Roman Catholic"

"just got home from Mass"

And the Roman Catholic church in no way says that sex is only for reproduction. That is a misconception. The HQ may be opposed to artificial birth control under most circumstances, but in no way does it state that sex is just for procreation.

And where did I mention the Catholic church in my previous post anyway? I am stating that I know people of many denominations who think that sex is only for making babies, and that any sex for love or pleasure is sinful.

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by Scandia

"is Roman Catholic"

"just got home from Mass"

And the Roman Catholic church in no way says that sex is only for reproduction. That is a misconception. The HQ may be opposed to artificial birth control under most circumstances, but in no way does it state that sex is just for procreation.

And where did I mention the Catholic church in my previous post anyway? I am stating that I know people of many denominations who think that sex is only for making babies, and that any sex for love or pleasure is sinful.

Is Roman Catholic. Goes to a Catholic law school. Went to a Catholic university. Serves as a hospitality minister at Mass. Has served as a lector and an acolyte in the past.

Your post came off as very judgmental. If people think that sex is only for reproduction, that's fine for them.

I do not care what anyone except for my sexual partners does in the bedroom.