How many partners? Am I bad?
 

Earlier this afternoon the topic of “how many past sexual partners have you had” came up between my boyfriend and me. When he told me 7, I thought he was joking and laughed out loud. When I realized he was serious, I didn't want to tell him my number. He pressed for it anyways and when he found out I was in the 30's he looked at me weird. I'm not bad right? What happened in the past is exactly that, the past. We all went to college; we know what that is like. :confused: :( Please help me guys.

Tucson ADPi, please check your PMs!

Did you see the Will & Grace episode when Grace and Nathan talk about that for the first time? This makes me think of that.

I don't think that 30 is that high of a number. I know some of my sorority sisters have gone way over that. Your boyfriend sounds like a prude.

I was thinking about the episode the other night! I was trying to figure out if it "worse" to have slept with a lot of people very few times or a few people a ton of times. I couldn't make up my mind.

TucsonADPi~ tell your man as long as ya'll are committed to each other it doesn't matter how many people you've been with.

why do people still have this conversation?

don't ask questions you can't handle the answer to.

i've had this convo before and in my opinion it's never a "good" convo to have - somebody always gets hurt - like others have said, as long as you're committed now, why should it matter?

I am dreading the day that I have to have this conversation.

Not on my side, because I do not make a secret of the fact that I'm in the same boat as JocelynC.

But on the other person's side.

I honestly do not know what would bother me more- a promiscuous period that you regret, or multiple intercourse times in many relationships (as compared to one or two) that were healthy but simply did not work out.

I would feel very uncomfortable with someone who is significantly more experienced than I am. As well as with someone who thinks he can have premarital sex because he's male, but expects his bride to be a virgin and requires it (as compared to someone who simply does not care about his wife's experience level). And of course- I do not want someone who will think less of me because of my lack of experience, which is simply by my choice.

Hopefully I will find someone who shares my morals in theory and in practice.